I’m sitting at my new computer (which I’m obsessed with by the way) with my latte to my left! We are in the last of April, May is approaching fast and Summer will be here before we know it.
I’ve held back discussing my dating life on here but after reading a few things on Twitter and in blogland over the last couple of days, I think it’s time to spill it!
What prompted this post… [These are not exact quotes]
“People in relationships live longer than single people……”
“Pray for the single girls…….”
“You’re single because……. [I could write a book with the list of things people have said to me]”
Okay, here’s the deal. I’m a call-it-like-you-see-it kinda gal, I speak my mind and (as I’ve said before) you might not like what comes out but most likely you’ll know it’s true… even if you don’t want to accept it.
Let’s go back to February of this year.
My family and friends convinced me to sign up for match.com. I trust them very much so I did it. I walked away from the experience (which lasted a whole 2-3 weeks) with six things…. a mass amount of emails to my girlfriends [in which I would give them full commentary on my daily communication with a bunch of weirdos], one date that was more like having dinner with a co-worker, one date with a creep, $34.99 less in my bank account, two tanks of gas and a big-fat headache!
After the date with the creep – I canceled the subscription and deleted my profile before I put myself to bed that night. Major relief.
As I mentioned in a post last week, I’ve dating my fair share of men. I’ve been dating for 10+ years and there have been some really great stories along the way.
Let’s go back about five years…
I was in Chicago for business and had a dinner date with my City Parents. I went to the restaurant about 30-40 minutes before I was supposed to meet them to have a drink at the bar. [You have a much better chance meeting someone when you are BY YOUR SELF] Adorable dark-haired guy walks in. I immediately move my coat from the chair next to me… which I had put there on purpose to control who sat next to me. Jackpot. He sat down, introduced himself and I quickly picked up on his cocky-arrogant personality…. which I, like most girls, pretended to hate but really loved. With that being said, I never told him my name. I even said “I bet you just graduated from college.” [Funny, since I had just graduated from college] Bob and Sherri came and we took our seats at our table. Within a few minutes, the bartender came to our table and handed me a business card. On the back it read, “Would love to have drinks while you’re in town. Call me.”
There have been romantic meetings like this one that led to not-so-good relationships, there have been great first dates that didn’t stand a chance for a second and then….
I went on a date last Saturday that was not your traditional first date which was refreshing and all-together fantastic!
My friend Amy called me while I was in FL a couple of weeks ago and said she had someone that I just HAD to meet. Long story short, We (He doesn’t have a blog name yet) exchanged a few emails while I was in FL, we spoke on the phone a couple of times upon my return to the Midwest and then we decided that we should meet in person which led to our first date last Saturday. Our first date led to both of us getting sick and I had a horrific allergic reaction to his cat on our second date. But even in the middle of sickness and a red puffy face… we still had a great time together!! I’m pretty sure we’ll be seeing each other again soon.
So, on behalf of the bazillion single girls living in the World today… thank you for your prayers. But please remember we’re not dying… we’re just single! We are praying for you too!
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I have to hear more… yeah for you~
Amy (yaya)
I have to hear more… maybe over some “juice.”
Yaya
Your match.com date sounds like most of mine! I’m still hanging in there, and dating men from both that site and “the real world”. My experiences have been so absurd that I’ve dedicated a blog to my dating excursions
So glad that you found what appears to be a “good one”, and can’t wait to hear more about him!
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I didn’t believe people when they said it to me, but it is the truth. You will find him when you stop looking. I had bad experiences with dates, and came to the conclusion that marriage was not in my cards. A month later, I met him at work. I didn’t think much of it, and after about a month we started to go out after work for drinks (the first time was really us being friends), the second time we realized there was an attraction and started flirting. We were not monogamous at first, but realized that no one else compared. We just got married a month and a half ago. I seriously had to think to myself to stop looking for something with every guy I lay my eyes on. It’s hard to think like that but someday it will happen for you.
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thinking happy thoughts for you Nina!
kHm
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Oh Nina, I’m so excited about your awesome new guy. Can’t wait to hear more
PS – While reading your post all I could think of was Charlotte from SATC saying “I’ve been dating since I was 15. I’m exhausted. Where is he?”
Everything happens at the right time and for a reason. Who knows where this will lead? So exciting, isn’t it?!
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I really enjoy your blog, but have never commented before. I’m a single 23-year-old girl and have been living in Chicago going to grad school for the past year. I get those same lines all the time from people! I just signed up for match.com (also due to my friends and parents advice) a couple of weeks ago and it’s been a disaster. Clearly when I put that I’m looking for someone under 30, I do not want a 45 year old man writing me creepy e-mails! My profile will most likely be erased from the website very soon, too. Best of luck with dating..I love to hear the stories so I don’t feel like I’m the only one going through the same thing!
Cheers to being single! I for one think that getting sick and still having a good time is an excellent sign. I got food poisioning after my second date with the badger at a comedy show … 3 years later we’re still laughing!
happy weekend!
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Oh, Nina! You are SO not diseased.
I think people that rag on being single are just jealous… and why stick your nose in someone else’s business anyway? Love that you’re enjoying your new adventure!
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Omg … I love this post!!! Enjoy those butterflies and cheers to seeing him again! Xoxo-BLC
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Lori up there is right! I met my husband as soon as I stopped looking. And I found him on MSN WebPersonals..now Lava Life (it was before meeting people online was the thing to do).
I met my guy in 2000..in August and he proposed in November and we would have been married that December but immigration issues arose. We’ve now been married for nearly 8 years!
I’m so excited for you and this new guy..can’t wait to hear more stories!
Have a fab weekend:)
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Exciting stuff! Can’t wait to hear what happens next! Enjoy single life – there’s plenty of time for the other side!
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Found your blog recently and I’m loving it so far! My husband and I bonded early on in our relationship when we both got food poisoning after a date (think that’s what you meant when you both got sick from your date?). Anyways, enjoy your new dating adventure and have fun!!
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Love the post and so glad things are going well!
I totally agree with you and though I’m not single and in a relationship I feel like everyone is telling me to get married NOW, while I’m enjoying life. It’s a tough subject but you have grace and class. I can’t wait to hear what happens with you though! I have a feeling it will be good things. Keep us posted. 
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I’m so thrilled to hear that the second date was a success! I didn’t put together (from twitter) that it was HIS cat you reacted to… oh dear! Can’t wait to hear more….
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Nina, I have been trying to catch up on your blog the last few weeks because I feel so out of touch with you! I haven’t seen you since my fantastic bach. party you were so impressed with!
I am so looking forward to seeing you soon and I am so happy I have been tuning in lately. This was a fabulous post! Luv and Miss!!! BTW, I met my husband at Sidetracks!!!
LOVED LOVED LOVED this post! I couldn’t have said it any better!
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Amen! I love the part, “we’re praying for you too.” LOL. I wrote a post about 2 years ago about various bad dates I’ve had. Maybe I’ll re-post it soon. Match.com is the worst. I tried it too and I was completely digusted. My brother told me later “the girls are on Match to find good guys that could be husbands someday and most (not all) guys are on Match to have s*x.” NICE.
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Great post and one topic I’ve been dying to hear about from you!
I am excited to hear more. Question: Did you tell him about your blog? I haven’t experience that… being single with a blog and dating. I have only been in a relationship with a blog so I’d be curious.
Good luck and I can’t wait to hear more!
aw that’s great! I hope it works out!
Any guy who can handle an Italian is a good guy
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Love this post! Glad someone else has experienced weird dates as well…I went out with a guy who asked me if I had a large chest while we were on the phone setting up a time and place to meet. I thought he was joking!
Good luck with the new guy!
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Hi Nina – Very good post. I say it is better to be single than to be “attached” to the wrong person. And I am so excited about this “person of interest” – sounds like Law & Order jargon
– so please keep us posted. And you must give “POI” a nickname cause I just made him sound like a criminal 
xoxo to you sweetie! I wish I had another son cause if I did you would be my future daughter-in-law!!! What fun we would have!!
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Glad you had a couple great dates! And that business card situ sounds like something out of a movie! And after seeing that picture I had to go make myself some hot chocolate. Yum.
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Been reading your blog for a while, this is my first post! Don’t think of me as Debbie downer but I am so disheartened for you! Yikes!!! Allergic to his cat? How allergic are you? You said “puffy” so Im guessing you swelled up. Will he get rid of the cat for you? Im desperately allergic and I cant date anyone with a cat
Had to walk away from two pretty terrific guys because of it. My allergy shots didn’t work at all. I hope it DOES work though, just don’t be upset if it doesn’t. Lots of cat-less guys in the sea 
Match works! I ignored the the creeps and found a great guy. I met my fiance on match, we had an instant connection. We both found out we work at the same place by signing up on match and the rest is history.
I saw the “pray for the single girls” thing on my reader. I was like, whats that supposed to mean? We will find someone someday
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I 100% saw that pray for the single girls .. girl, what? I have been thinking about that. I LOOOOVED being single.. Yes I was sad, depressed looking for someone and tried hard to fit into the groups of smug marrieds (remember bridget jones?) … but at the end of the day I spent what I wanted, ate what I wanted, did what I wanted.. and dated who I wanted. I know know know that God has not forgotten you. I Know that He has someone so fabulous for you and that guy is saying to his friends right now” I wish I could meet a sweet littel girl named nina” It is going to happen. enjoy yourself love and treat yourself like the princess you are. xo
Maybe you’ve had another great date by now??? I sure hope so! Good luck …
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“We’re not dying . . . we’re just single.” Fabulous, fabulous stuff.
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So glad to hear your date went well
The thing about praying for the single girls kind of caught me off guard as well… I mean, my single years were some of the absolute BEST of my life. I’m from a small town and just about everyone I know got married when they were 20 or 21 and have 3 or 4 kids by now and they are defined by that. I am so thankful that I got time to actually learn about myself and who/what I wanted to be rather than letting my relationships do that for me. Bravo to you… enjoy your single days while you still have them!
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