27 Oct

Blogging Is Not for the Weak

posted by ninahelleny in DAILY DIARY
I normally blog from my kitchen counter (only because our guest room is currently my storage unit for a bunch of baby stuff we don't use and stacks of gifts), but somehow my laptop found it's way into our living room a couple of days ago. The living room is too distracting for me. For example, I started this post yesterday morning but I couldn't get my thoughts in order to publish it. Then I tried to finish it last night but my dear husband (that I love very much) would not stop talking. He was rattling off the Best Bathrooms in America and as much I enjoyed playing along by guessing the locations, it made it impossible to gather my thoughts and turn them into words someone might want to read.

The brutal truth is blogging can be challenging.

Making the time.

Organizing your thoughts.

Creating original content.

Developing a place people want to click to.

To filter or not to filter. I don't like grounds in my coffee, do you?

Staying focused but also growing with your blog's own evolution.

I started blogging almost seven years ago. Seven years ago as a friend introduced me to "blogging" I had no idea what I was in for. I've published good posts, bad posts, interesting posts, and boring posts. Weekly segments have been created and retired. I was single. Then engaged. Married. And now a mother. What I was writing about seven years ago is no longer relevant. Well, except for my posts on gorgeous boots and handbags that cost more than a small Mercedes of course!

You go from your mother being your only reader to strangers reading your blog to building an online tribe. You go from thinking it's odd a girl you don't know left a comment on your blog to talking to that person every day on the phone.

You learn to ride the waves of analytics. A recent post title on The Clothspring Adventures of a WAHM said it perfectly, Blogging is a Roller Coaster! That's right. There are highs and lows and sometimes it makes you SCREAM but you absolutely love it!

You gain followers and lose followers. You follow people and unfollow people. It's the natural progression of relationships in life, offline or online. All the same. I know I have a different audience now than I did four years ago. And I'm happy about that. My audience has either grown with me or found a new blog to read. Both are okay and the beauty of blogging. It's just like watching television, if you don't like something you see switch the channel.

You find your "network" and create your "policy."  I'm not a controversial blogger and over the years I've thickened my filter even more. I don't blog about the death penalty, tax cuts, or personal family matters. I write about a wide-variety of things from beauty products to made-up recipes to random thoughts on blogging. Sometimes companies send me things to review but the reviews are still my true, genuine thoughts. And just because bloggers (including myself) occasionally receive products from companies, it does not mean that everything we write about we received for free. I'm pretty sure there is not a new Louis Vuitton on it's way to my house. ha! If I find something I love I share it with everyone I know online and offline, even if it's the coffee creamer I purchased during a recent trip to the grocery store. That's me! I've been that way since I was old enough to talk.

I like opinionated people. Opinionated, NICE people. I'm opinionated for goodness sakes! You do not have to agree with me and I don't have to agree with you on every single subject. I've always and will always welcome and post comments from real people with real thought no matter what they say. I value people's opinions. We learn from one another! It's a wonderful thing. But I do not and will not publish comments that use a fake name, fake email address, and software to mask their IP addresses only to leave me a comment that is a nasty attack at me, my family and/or my friends.

I've said this before and I'm sure you'll hear it again. As a blogger, you must be prepared for the worst. The good is a bonus. Be ready to read that you are the ugliest, worst person alive. Be ready to read mean things about your children. But the rewards? They outweigh the bad! The opportunities are endless and the people you meet makes it all worth it. It's not for everyone though. I thank God every day for the confidence I have in myself. If it weren't for that this blog would have been shut down years ago.

And that's what I have to say about that.

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  • http://www.theclothspring.com Patti P

    BTW I discovered it for you on SU and you already have a 1000 views. Thanks again!

  • http://www.theclothspring.com Patti P

    Thanks so much for the mention! Great article.

  • Melissa

    I have never met you in person and I cannot imagine anyone saying anything bad about you!! I think you are beautiful and I love your blog. I think I found it through Kelly’s Korner or maybe Ashley Brooke. I pray that the Lord blesses every bit of your life. ;)


  • http://therestisstillunwritten-sjm.blogspot.com/ Stephanie

    Everything you said is completely true! Have a great weekend!

  • http://www.minnesotahousewife.blogspot.com RealHousewifein MN

    I totally agree! It’s funny I was just talking with someone about this the other day. I have a love/hate relationship with blogging but the love FAR outweighs the hate! It’s nice to hear others share a similar perspective :)

  • http://www.lifeinthegreenhouse.com Jennifer Green

    Nina, I adore you and I absolutely agree with this post.
    Thanks for writing it :)

  • http://www.thetichenorfamily.com meredith

    you are a rockstar. love your post. love your transparency. i cannot imagine ONE unkind word someone would say about you or your sweet, sweet family… but i too have been there! so thankful for the friendship we’ve formed. you’re the cutest. xoxo!

  • landlocked mermaid

    and that is what I think about that. you are so cute. I have been reading you for a looong time. and will keep doing it baby sister… I read that article about bathrooms too. ;) xo

  • Andrea T

    well said. keep on bloggin’ :)

  • http://megcasta.wordpress.com Megan

    Thank you so much for writing this! I recently started blogging and have not yet experienced the “roller coaster” so many of you have. This offers a great perspective into this overwhelming, exciting world.

  • http://megcasta.wordpress.com Megan

    Thank you so much for writing this! I have recently started blogging and have not yet experienced the “roller coaster” so many of you have. This offers a great perspective into this overwhelming, exciting world.

  • http://www.inthiswonderfullife.com In this wonderful life

    Very well said! Could not agree more!!!

    So glad I found you and your blog :)

  • Chelsi

    I appreciate this post. The blogging world definitely has it’s ups & downs. The hardest thing for me is the disconnect that I feel as a reader of many blogs. I have stopped commenting on most blogs because of the lack of feedback. Realistically, I know that bloggers don’t have time in their day to email every single reader back. But after a while, never receiving feedback via Twitter or an email gets old. It seems the be a flashback of when I wrote Ginger Spice several letters and never heard a word back! *I kid!* Well, not about the Ginger Spice thing, she was my favorite! ;)

    The bottom line is just as you said, we all have opinions and are entitled to them. However, if people need to share them it should be done respectfully and no one is growing or being enriched by a negative Nancy who is just trying to be MEAN. And it certainly takes more effort to leave a nasty comment than to not leave one at all. I also appreciate you welcoming differening opinions (respectful ones, of course.) Because I often have differing opinions! ;)

  • http://www.ourpictureperfect.com MARIA

    Well said! My husband and I just started our blog and are learning more about that “rollercoaster.” It’s something I have been wanting to do for a while and really enjoy the supportive blogging community. As you mentioned, the hardest part for me is finding the Time; this baby keeps me BUSY! But it is something we definitely enjoy. Good to know I’m not the only newbie :) Hello ladies!

  • http://www.livinwiththelindseys.blogspot.com Elizabeth

    Great post Nina! As a new member of this whole blogging world it is nice to have you and other bloggers to look to for advice, blogger etiquette, etc. I only hope I can one day be able to actually put together a great post that people want to read (that doesn’t just have pictures of my beanie!)!

  • http://adventuresofkag.blogspot.com KAG

    Love it N! So true, you are great blogger and person! xo, K

  • http://mariamillerhanson.typepad.com/ maria

    So true. Blogging is hard isn’t it? I am more of a blog follower than a blogger. Sometimes I struggle with commenting and never hearing back from the blogger…wondering if I encouraged them or not. And then I realize that many blogs have so many readers, the author can’t be “friends” and comment back to everyone who comments nicely or shares her sense of style. And then sometimes I wonder if they even read my comments and if it’s even worth the trouble to comment. It’s tough to be a blogger and to be a blog follower. But it is a fun community and I still enjoy going through my favorites each day.

  • http://coffeeatnordstrom.blogspot.com/ Crystal

    Awesome post, Nina! I am a new blogger, and just starting to meet people and grow relationships! Its incredible to see the difference between the people I met a month ago in my blogging and the friends I have now! love your blog! Jack is so cute! Thanks for this awesome post! Have a great day!

  • http://blueeyedbride.com Erin @ Blue-Eyed Bride

    If there was a “like” button, I’d push the button. You know I agree with you. The natural evolution of a blog and the personal opinions expressed. There are “perks” to blogging, but I don’t always use those perks and just because I like something, it doesn’t mean I was paid to like it. Just like I always say, it’s a glimpse. People see a glimpse.

  • http://www.dayoldnews.com James

    Here, here! I’ve been rather anonymous in my blogging over the past (nearly) 6 years and am finally trying to start a blog about me and my life. You can’t worry about the haters – they just mean you’ve arrived in the big leagues, right? ;)